Everyone has good days and bad days, and sometimes things can get away from us faster than we could ever imagine. We have all had those days, weeks, or even months that are just total disasters and no matter what you try, you can’t do anything right. During these tough times, we often affect other people; we might ask for more help, inadvertently cause more work for someone, or just generally be in a terrible mood as a result of it. I think I speak for all of us when I say that we would like to have the benefit of the doubt given to us, and we need to be willing to show that in return!
There are some people in your life who will always be flaky and undependable. They may be fun and interesting but you know that you can’t count on them for anything. This isn’t for them… If someone seems to be having an unusually rough go of things, and they aren’t as organised and put together as they normally are, give them the benefit of the doubt. No matter what happens in the immediate future as a result of their current actions/ lack of actions or attitude, in that moment, ask what you can do to help and don’t place blame. In the moment, giving someone the benefit of the doubt can usually help the situation by at least lifting their mood by showing someone is willing to help!
I am by no means saying that you should not address whatever the issue(s) are, but do it later, in private. And if it is happening repeatedly/ is a pattern, address that in private, as well. If someone is late day in and day out, the benefit of the doubt is lost because they aren’t changing their behaviour. But if someone is late once every 4 months, perhaps pull them aside after if it does need to be addressed instead of berating them on the spot for being late.
Do you find you often give the benefit of the doubt? Do you struggle with addressing conflict or do you feel comfortable facing it?