For anyone who isn’t familiar with sororities and Greek life, there are different officer positions in a chapter (that sorority’s group on a particular campus). It might have to do with academics, finances, programming, or any number of areas, and each of those offices ideally will have an advisor. An advisor is an alumnae member who helps their student officer with any issues they might have, offer suggestions and guidance, sign off on reports, and any number of random things. Sororities are presented from the student/collegian point of view 99% of the time- I would like to share the other perspective today!
Being an advisor for your sorority is a great way to stay involved with your sorority, especially if you are looking for a structured environment. If you are in a new city, it’s a great way to form a connection with a new chapter/alumnae group, and its a way to continue your involvement. Collegians, I know that it seems that we are just old women trying to relive our student days but I promise that we aren’t! Here are some of the things that we wish we could tell you.
We Aren’t Trying to Be Jerks
If an advisor says no or tries to give you alternatives, it’s not because she wants to be a jerk, ruin your office, or make more work for you- it’s because she genuinely wants to help you succeed. Being an advisor is a lot of work and time, and we aren’t committing to all of that to work against you. Also, sometimes we are simply enforcing something from International Headquarters- it might not be our choice. Please know that we do want the best for you!
We’ve Been in Your Shoes
Although it perhaps has been a while, we were collegian members just like you are. We’ve experienced the ups and downs, the workload, and the stress of offices, and we do remember what that was like. We went through everything and came out on the other side, and actually are trying to pass some of that experience onto you to make your life easier. Sure, we may have mailed things instead of submitted online, offices may have different titles, and programming may be different, but we aren’t as out of touch and uninformed as many collegians would like to believe. Please believe that we understand where you are at!
Our Experience Can Help You
Most advisors have been out of school for a while, and have been dealing with all manners of people and situations out there in the world. Not to say that all of us wouldn’t prefer to just not have to deal with all of those difficult people, but someone may as well benefit from it. Also, think back to your own life when you were experienced and more than proficient at something- you went to help someone only to have someone fairly new at the job shove your experience to the side. I personally think that you should question why something is done the way it is, but I don’t subscribe to change for the sake of change. Please at least listen to our recommendations.
We Are Happy to Help But Have Lives
We wouldn’t be advisors if we didn’t want to help you. However, we do have our own adult lives that may not be as flexible or forgiving as student schedules. We need more than a day’s warning if you want a meeting, we need to be emailed reports more than 10 minutes before you are presenting it, and we need to know when you are having issues when they start. We have full-time jobs, families, and other commitments, and the days of dropping everything for our sorority are far less than when we were collegians. Please give as much warning as possible!
Readers, are you familiar with sororities? Sorority members, are you interested in advising?