Today I’m very happy to share something from a very good friend and Alpha Gamma Delta sister of mine, a new podcast that is launching today! The Way I C It debuts today (four episodes are live already), and Carolina is the perfect host to bring a new podcast in your listening life. Coming in at 15-20 minutes, it is a quick but thoughtful podcast that will make you think about you and your life but keep you moving forward rather than stuck in thought. Carolina sat down with me for an interview and to give more background and insight into her podcast, which I am excited to share with you today!
For a little more background, Carolina and I are both members of Alpha Gamma Delta, and have not only worked together in our alumnae group here but are also advisors for the collegiate chapter now! She has lived more in the first 28 years of her life than many of us will in 80+ years, and wants to use those experiences to help bring positivity into others’ lives. When she comes into a room, you will know- you can feel her infectious energy, and you will always be greeted warmly. I was excited to hear that she was planning on starting a podcast, and sharing that energy with everyone! The focus of The Way I C It is truth, optimism, and vulnerability, and using that in your life. So, without any further adeiu….
When did you first decide to make a podcast and why?
K, so starting a podcast was never something I really aspired to do – haha! But I knew that I wanted to connect with people, and I knew I wanted to connect with a lot of them. I didn’t have a great childhood, so when I was about 15 I decided I wanted to write an autobiography to share my story, and help others with similar stories feel less alone – which makes me laugh now, because although a lot had happened to me by the time I was 15, waaaaaay more has happened in the last 13 years on top of that. But I’m not some writing prodigy, what did I know about writing an autobiography at 15? So it just kind of sat at the back of my mind until I got older. And then I started planning for a blog, because blogging became all the rage, and an opportunity to connect with a lot of people. But I spent the better part of two years planning (I’m obsessed with planning), and organizing, and hashing out details, and it never really got anywhere; blogging wasn’t the medium, for me, that was going to help me connect with people. Around December, I had a mentor suggest maybe I try something smaller, since my blog plans became so large and outstretched, it didn’t seem feasible to accomplish anymore. She suggested maybe 30 second instagram videos, or a Twitter feed – but I hate Twitter. And then she suggested maybe a podcast? And I had only recently started listening to podcasts within the last 8 months maybe? So it really peaked my interest and I started researching and listening to podcasts on how to start a podcast, and in January I had really solidified that I was going to do this. I started planning and outlining what topics I wanted to talk to about, what experiences I wanted to tell, what guests I wanted to share. And now we’re here! Way better than two years.
Do you find being vulnerable to possibly anyone in the world a challenge?
Oh my god, absolutely. I fully acknowledge that it is going out there, and it is going to be available to whomever takes an interest, and invests the time to listen to it – and that’s terrifying. But I believe that fear and creativity go hand in hand together. And if everyone listened to their fear, nothing would be created, and nothing would ever change; how boring would that be? I know there are people who are going to come and listen and laugh at my foolishness, and judge my vulnerabilities and insecurities. But vulnerability is literally a pillar of this community I’m trying to build, and I believe in it so wholeheartedly, it makes pushing the fear aside a little bit easier. I know the people who need this podcast, and who will connect with it, will be the ones to support it and encourage it – and that will make the fear and the criticism worth it tenfold.
What is the most difficult part of podcasting for you?
Uuuuugh, editing. One hundred and fifty percent editing. I’ve never done something like this before, this is a completely new experience for me, and I’m doing it all on my own. Anything that costs money comes out of my own pocket, so I tried to keep my overhead costs as low as I could by doing everything myself. YouTube has been my best friend, and I appreciate all the work those people put into making those videos. So I’m always “thumbs-uping” and writing comments to thank them for their efforts and free information. But yah, editing and voice mastering. I really struggle with my S’. In Romanian, there’s a letter that looks like a T with a little tail, and it specifically sounds like a “tsss”, it’s a very forwarding sounding S noise, which I really notice in my recordings. Trying to soften that was a learning curve, I either did too much and I sounded like I had a lisp, or I didn’t do enough and my S’ would make me cringe through headphones. But! I’m getting there. I did a “beta-listening” the week prior to my official launch and I got a lot of positive feedback, and some notes I’m going to use moving forward. Like my intro music is a tad too loud, and it makes it difficult to hear my voice over. That was incredibly helpful because I knew what I was saying, and I knew what words to look for. But to someone listening for the first time? It was a great note to get and learn from.
Because your podcast is so personal, are there any general topics that you won’t discuss on it?
For sure, my relationship… or I should say my lack of relationship, with my dad is probably not something I’m going to touch on too much. And it’s not because I don’t think people would benefit from it, I mean how many “daddy issue” articles, and books, and storylines, and jokes, etc do we see every day? But I’m already going to be putting a lot out there about my estrangement from my mother, who was my primary caregiver growing up.
It’s tough to feel like I don’t have parents, and it gets really lonely. But I thank the universe every day for giving me friends who have turned into family, and in the last 12 years, I think there was only one holiday, a thanksgiving, that I spent alone. And now thinking about it, I think I was only alone the actual day of, but one of my pledge sisters invited me to her family Thanksgiving for the following day. I’ve always been graciously invited and accepted into my friends and their families homes, and I’m so unbelievable grateful for that. But also, no one in my life knows my mom or has even met my mom, so they have no current perception of her. But I know there are people who are going to listen, and do know my dad, so I don’t want to cloud or twist their perception of him with my own experience.
And then probably not too much on my relationship with my boyfriend, Matthew. I mean, I will discuss some things, and I do want to bring him on the show, and our relationship is pretty visible on my instagram. But unfortunately, I think we still have a long way to go as a society in caring negatively about and twisting people’s’ relationships “in the public eye”. I remember when Brad and Angelina were getting divorced, and every tabloid was exploiting every angle they could get. I was like What’s wrong with you? These are people! These are human beings going through a heartbreaking experience, and you want to make a show of it? You want to make it entertainment for people? And the worst part is – people eat it up, they thrive on the drama and the destruction! So until that gets altered, I don’t want to give people any ammunition they can twist. Matthew and I have a remarkable relationship, I can confidently say it’s the most balanced, respectful, and understanding relationship I’ve ever been in. And I want to keep it that way, without external forces trying to interfere, thinking their opinion matters or is valid.
Where do you hope to see your podcast in a year?
I’m really good at qualitative goals, like I want to be featured somewhere (which I’m counting this, so check!) I want to guest speak at an event or a high school or somewhere, I want to make it on the New and Noteworthy page of Apple Podcasts, or be on a “Top Ten Upcoming Podcasts” list or something like that. But I did struggle with the quantitative goals, which makes me laugh being a financial / quantitative person. But I do have some goals like number of listeners, number of guests, number of members in our FaceBook community – The Way I C It Community. Which I also want to see grow and become a confidential (as confidential as the internet can be) and supportive environment for people. And a big goal of mine, is I want to connect with at least one listener. I want to make someone feel so supported and comfortable, that they come forward to me with their story to share.
Blogs and podcasts are starting more Facebook groups and semi-private/semi-public communities for readers and listeners to come together, and the questions of privacy and respect come up a lot. How do you plan on handling this in your group?
Oh man, this is definitely a concern. When people first request to join the group, they’re asked three questions they have to answer about their motives and acceptance, and I posted a pinned video in our group with 4 “housekeeping rules” that I hope all members will watch: respect is an absolute must, the ability to agree to disagree will be your saving grace, being open to optimism, positivity, and “silver-lining” suggestions, and lastly, although I want the group to grow, I want that confidentiality and support to grow along with it. I hope people acknowledge that it is still the internet, screenshots can happen, but I’m optimistic that the people who will want to join and partake in this group will have similar mentalities, and value respect, the truth, optimism, and recognize the hardships and strength in being vulnerable.
What is an unexpected podcast that you love?
Haha, I don’t think there are many podcasts on my list that people would be surprised by. I’m pretty much a “what you see is what you get” kind of person, I am who I am regardless of who’s around. I listen to a bunch of accounting and bookkeeping podcasts, but I’m passionate and finance and budget balancing, so that’s not too far out the scope. I listen to a bunch of spiritual and motivational podcasts, but again, I’m a pretty spiritual person who loves to be motivated and motivate others. I listen to a few health and nutrition podcasts, but if you follow me on instagram, you know that’s nothing new. So, I think I’ll probably go with The Minimalists Podcast, because although I love some of the notions, and I love clean, organized, and simple systems and spaces and solutions, I would not consider myself a minimalist by any means; I love my designer Louis Vuitton haha! My top two podcasts would probably be The Goal Digger Podcast with Jenna Kutcher and Don’t Keep Your Day Job with Cathy Heller though; I’m so in love with them right now and they were instrumental in helping me get this ball rolling.
If you could say only one thing to your listeners, what would it be?
We don’t have control over situations that we are placed in, or cards that we are dealt but we do have control in how they control us, how we react, how we move forward and how they shape our lives. You can only blame your past and external forces for so long before you have to accept that your choices are your own, and you can choose to let that darkness define you and how you interact with the world, or you can choose to let the brightness shine and let the world see your sparkle!
I hope that you will take a few minutes out of your day and listen to an episode or two of The Way I C It! Spend a couple of moments thinking on what you really want out of your life, and what positive things have happened lately for you. You can find her on Instagram as @misslinavee and at TheWayICIt.com to connect more!
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