4 Blogging Regrets

Blogging is a bizarre hobby when you think about it. There is a huge divide between people who touch their blog once a month, and people who check it countless times throughout the day. Many of us hold ourselves to these weirdly high standards (that only apply to the most successful of bloggers that have monthly traffic of millions) for some reason, when we could just be enjoying it for what it is! Today is all about introspection-  I’m sharing my blogging regrets, and how I’m feeling about my blog now.

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1. “Blogs You Should Be Reading” Posts 

I’m torn on these posts, and I’m not going to delete them, but I don’t know how I feel about them anymore. I spent hours finding posts and writing blurbs about blogs that I enjoy reading and sharing, and in the large majority of cases, the blogger didn’t so much as comment a thank you. I went out of my way to share 2-4 posts per site, all to connect with bloggers and hopefully make some blogging friends. It didn’t really work- if I was friends with them prior, I stayed friends, but I made very few connections through them. I spent usually upwards of 3 hours on those posts to give away traffic to other bloggers when I could have been working on my own content. I’m actively trying to work on my blogging networking now, and getting people to link to your content is like climbing Mount Everest in shorts and a t-shirt- why was I putting so much time into it when everyone else essentially refuses unless you are paying them?

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2. Not Doing Enough Research

I never thought that I would not do enough research (I usually do about 800x too much research), but I wish that I had researched social media and general blogging info earlier. I don’t mean the “How I doubled my blog traffic in 4 days!” posts but the actual nitty gritty of what size and orientation of pictures to use, anchor text and HTML, what colours to use on what forms of social media, and even scheduling. There is no set answer to all of it, but I’ve found through doing a lot of reading, I’m slowly able to hone my own blog (and associated forms of social media), and I’m pretty proud of what I’m accomplishing. Do I have 10,000 views a month? Definitely not, and I probably never will. However, I’m now not shy or nervous to tell people that I have a blog, and although I don’t give out the link like candy, I’m happy to share if it’s relevant! Had I started doing this research a year ago, I would certainly be further along.

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3. Trusting People 

In the first two years of my blog, I was certainly too trusting of other bloggers. You can meet some absolutely amazing and wonderful people, and there are some bloggers out there who will go to the moon and back for you even though you are just a shadow on the inter-webz. However, many bloggers are only out for themselves, and it does well to remember that. I’m pretty cautious now with bloggers, it takes me quite a while before I’m willing to open up and actually talk with them now- why put a bunch of time into people who will most likely disappear once they’ve gotten what they want from you? Keeping my distance has given me peace of mind, and while I’m making blogging friends at a much slower pace, I’m finding that those I do have are those wonderful people that you want in your life.

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Pixabay tells me this dog shows trust… I see treats…

4. Looking at Numbers 

Blogging stats are a difficult beast. How many followers do you have, views, visitors, links, sessions? The list goes on, and on, and on. And then on some more. For anyone who wants to monetise their blog, stats are important whether you like it or not- companies are going to want to know what exactly you can offer them for their PR dollars. However, I don’t plan on monetising my blog. This is a fun outlet for me, and whether or not I have 2 visitors or 200 in a day, it doesn’t change that I enjoyed writing it and I’m proud of what I have published. Realistically, I touch on wide variety of topics on a regular basis- if you enjoy reading about ballet, you will certainly find posts on my blog, but I also don’t post about it so regularly that you would come back daily to check. Ditto for reading, recipes, style, travel, and everything else I post on. My traffic has seen a dip in the last two months, but I’m proud of and happy with my content! And that’s a-okay.

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Blogging is realistically not a job for most of us. It is an over-saturated market, and how many hygge posts does the world need? (As someone who wrote two herself!) I’m learning to embrace blogging for the hobby that it is, and remember that I do in fact do this for fun. I know that people greatly prefer a post on a cool castle rather than on the history behind ballet, but you know what? I enjoy writing about ballet and it’s my blog, dammit! I’m a regular person, and this is just a regular blog. I think we all have regrets about different things, but how you move forward is key.

Bloggers, what are your biggest blogging regrets? And how are you feeling about your blog right now? 

Until tomorrow,
The Historian!
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57 thoughts on “4 Blogging Regrets

  1. Frede October 23, 2017 / 3:32 am

    Great post! I think more people need to remember that blogging is a hobby and that our blogs should be a reflection of who we are, our interests and passiosn, etc.; they are not just a thing to monetise and the fun in blogging is to find people to relate to or unique content (or a unique twist on trending content)… I like when I can ‘hear’ someone’s voice through their writing. Thank you for sharing!

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 7:50 am

      Thank you for stopping by!! It may have taken me two and a half years, but I’m truly happy with blog, no matter how popular (or unpopular) it is. If it’s a topic I’m passionate about, who cares that no one read it?? I still enjoyed writing it!! ☺

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  2. InkedShrink October 23, 2017 / 3:54 am

    I’m pretty new to the whole thing (started in August) but so far I’d have to say the two regrets are that I didn’t start sooner and that I’m learning so much on the fly. I think it’s a good thing; but, there is so much to learn and I feel I’ve only just scratched the surface

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  3. amindfultravellerblog October 23, 2017 / 4:31 am

    I find I am very trusting of others as well Jess, but maybe I will learn this along the way as well as it’s only been 5 months of blogging for me. Great points here, and learning from these regrets is definitely the best way to move forward. Xx

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 5:17 pm

      Thank you, Lorelle!! I’m trying to focus on the positive and move forward in the best way I can 🙂 If I’m being honest, I’m too trusting of people in general- it’s not just in blogging haha. Learning is life-long for all of us!

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  4. Hannah October 23, 2017 / 5:40 am

    My biggest regret is going through a phase of comparing my blog to others and I went through a phase of being jealous that all these people’s blogs were growing massively and they were making a big deal of having x number of followers when my site is growing slowly. I wouldn’t want it big. I also started getting annoyed that I’d go out of my way to comment on someone’s posts and they never acknowledge it – no likes on the comment or anything, which I find hard.

    I’m sorry if I’m one of those people who doesn’t share – I mean to but sometimes I’m a bit of a goldfish brain and go to do something and get side tracked. :/

    How am I feeling about my site now? Well I’m kind of proud of it and I quite like looking back at it but I know I’m not giving it as much time as I should at the moment. It’s feeling like a bit of a chore to actually sit down and write posts, I’m either being lazy at the moment or I’m just not motivated! I mean I’ve written down ideas, but at the moment I don’t have the enthusiasm to do the photos mainly!

    Sorry, that’s a really long comment and I’m probably rambling/ranting a bit! =/ 😦

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 5:27 pm

      From what I’ve seen in almost 3 years of blogging is that a blog that seems pretty average/normal for the genre will all of a sudden blow up. No real reason why, but it will! It took me a verrrrrry long time to learn that blogging isn’t a zero sum game- people aren’t not reading my blog because they are reading someone else’s. They just aren’t reading mine, and that’s cool! I understand one comment getting lost in the mix, but all the time?? There are still bloggers who don’t respond to anything and it boggles my mind.

      Not everyone shares things, and that’s okay, too- I’m not always the best at remembering to share things outside of a thread in a blogging group. It’s why I try to link to other blogs, but when people don’t acknowledge it at all, I wonder if I just irritate them. (But I’ll never know… because they don’t say anything……..)

      Photos are the bane of my blogging existence. While I feel like mine have improved, it still takes a lot of work and the right lighting and seemingly luck. Because every single blogging post on the interwebz screams at you that PICTURES ARE CRUUUUUUCIAL, its tough to put up a post now that doesn’t have pictures!! (A case of damned if you do, damned if you don’t, am I right??)

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      • Hannah October 24, 2017 / 3:22 am

        Yes definitely. I always feel like I have to put pictures in but then I feel rubbish about it if the photos aren’t brilliant/up to the same standard as some people. But personally I’d rather a photo even if its rubbish than no photos at all.

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        • anhistorianabouttown October 27, 2017 / 9:07 pm

          My pet peeve is that I want to see a realistic photo of things- I want to see your cupcakes when they look like normal cupcakes, not when they are baked by a professional chef and shot by a professional photographer (because that’s not what I will experience)!! Reality over perfection, please!!

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          • ButterflyinRemission October 28, 2017 / 2:24 am

            I agree…reality not a stock photo! To me it makes the blogger more genuine??

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          • anhistorianabouttown November 11, 2017 / 7:04 pm

            I think it absolutely does!! It gives me more of a feeling for YOU, which is why I’m reading your blog!!

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          • ButterflyinRemission November 12, 2017 / 4:15 am

            Thank you..glad you get a good vibe & I do put a lot of ‘me’ into my blog…lovely to hear…same goes for your blog too

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  5. StephJ October 23, 2017 / 6:33 am

    I agree! Looking at my numbers always makes me a little depressed.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 5:28 pm

      I’ve found that looking at my blog as a website (rather than the app or the WordPress reader) makes me appreciate the bigger picture- being able to see it as a whole, rather than stats, makes a difference!!

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  6. Rated by Hanna October 23, 2017 / 8:03 am

    Yeah I agree about the majority of people being self centered haha but I think that’s just human nature. Even when I previously did one of those blog award posts when I reached out to other bloggers most of them didn’t really want to acknowledge the award or clutter up their own blog with that content which was not consistent with their current posts. Oh well! I also realized that people I know in real life don’t really care about the posts that I write, which is fine. Only regret is I wish I had found other blogging communities earlier, they have been an immensely helpful resource.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 5:31 pm

      I always half wonder if people don’t check their notifications, but the WordPress app makes it pretty clear that you have something waiting. It sounds terrible, but I always want to email the bloggers that I’ve left 5, 6, 7 comments for and haven’t answered them that it just looks snobby and arrogant at this point. (Obviously I don’t, but I think it…) It comes and goes with people in my real life reading my actual blog- I don’t care about their rec softball team, so I’m cool with them not reading my blog now haha. And the right communities make the world of difference!!

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  7. Meryn October 23, 2017 / 9:27 am

    This may sound odd, but it’s rather like a question- if you have it, so do ten others (depending on the size of the class). So ask the question. Also, word of mouth is still the best (or worst) thing that can happen to someone. Basically, just keep writing what you like and people who also like that topic(s) will find it. As long as you still enjoy writing it, then keep doing it.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 5:33 pm

      One of my biggest pet peeves in blogging is that people are so damn secretive- “I use certain tags but I won’t tell you WHICH tags,” “I do THIS with Pinterest to see more results but I’m not going to say HOW”. Why??? Are people really going to stop reading your blog because mine takes up sooooo much time? No, no they aren’t. Honestly, I really enjoy writing about certain topics and I’m going to keep writing about them!! 🙂

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  8. gigglingfattie October 23, 2017 / 10:08 am

    I totally feel you on #3 and 4. I trust people way too quickly in general, but I have met some super genuine and amazing people through my blog and I am happy to call them my friends 🙂

    I have always had this draw to my stats. When I first started getting followers I was fixated on my stats. Checking them obsessively, multiple times a day. Now I can go weeks without ever looking at my stats page, and it’s been very liberating to have that shift. I don’t think my blog will ever become famous or generate any money for me, but I honestly love having it. Even if it’s just for the space to write a private post that no one knows even exists but myself. It’s my creative outlet and I can’t imagine life without it.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 5:36 pm

      I check mine maybe once a day now- every once in a while, I will be checking it more if there is a post that I am particularly proud of (and want to see if people are enjoying it), but otherwise, they will do what they do. Sharing on social media doesn’t seem to have any immediate effect, so there is no real reason for a spike that I need to look for anyways. I specifically don’t want to monetise (or do sponsored posts), so what happens if no one reads it? Absolutely nothing 🙂

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      • gigglingfattie October 23, 2017 / 9:05 pm

        Yeah – once I disconnected myself from the stats I felt so much better. Sometimes, like during AtoZ or something I still focus on them a lot but thankfully not too much. And like you said, what happens if no one reads it? Nothing lol

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        • anhistorianabouttown October 27, 2017 / 9:15 pm

          Occasionally if I’m trying something new, it’s nice to check them and see if people are responding to whatever I’m doing at that moment. But what does it matter if 2 or 200 people read my post? I’ve already put a piece of me into it by writing and publishing it, that won’t change!!

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  9. josypheen October 23, 2017 / 10:55 am

    It is so strange that you researched and basically gave free kudos/advertising for someone and then they didn’t even acknowledge it! That is such a sweet way to show your appreciation. I never understand why some people act they do!

    I feel a bit miffed if I write a thoughtful comment on someones blog if they don’t bother to reply or acknowledge it. I would be really, really sad if I wrote a whole post for someone if they then ignored it!!

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 5:53 pm

      It was specifically crappy to me, because some of those blogs were not even two months old with only a handful of followers. Not that that makes anyone better or worse than anyone else, but when I send 30-40 clicks through to you and you can’t even like it, it starts to feel very worthless.

      I’ve had several well thought out comments go ignored (and not even approved) and now I’m always super hesitant to put a lot of time into comments- what if it just gets ignored anyways???

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      • josypheen October 23, 2017 / 6:00 pm

        Maybe those people had just not learned how helpful you were being yet? It does sound like truly dick-ish behaviour. 😦

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        • anhistorianabouttown October 27, 2017 / 9:08 pm

          I would hope so, but given how often it happened, I kind of just lost faith 😦

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  10. Expat Panda October 23, 2017 / 12:11 pm

    I don’t think I have any regrets to be honest… I used to monitor my stats but then I realised (just like you) that blogging is just my hobby so there is no point! I do it for myself and not others 🙂

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  11. Harshita Gupta October 23, 2017 / 1:03 pm

    Hey! ya! I ‘m a new blogger and just happened to start a blog for my love for books!! And Yeah!! I’m checking my blog countless number of times a day! 😀 and looking who is reading my blog!!;)
    https://blogharshitagupta.wordpress.com/
    But yes!! I’m loving it! “Writing!!” 😀

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 6:11 pm

      Congratulations on getting started, I hope that you enjoy the journey! The book blog community is a great one 🙂

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      • Harshita Gupta October 24, 2017 / 1:57 am

        Thank You!! Yes! I’m loving it!

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  12. mintyfreshie October 23, 2017 / 1:30 pm

    Honestly I didn’t think about half these things before I read your post but they’re all so relevant. I think regrets are normal in general though- it shows you’ve made mistakes and from the, you’ve grown and developed your blog in a positive way 🙂

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 6:14 pm

      I think that people who say they have no regrets aren’t being entirely truthful with themselves, because we all do have regrets! And while I did write a post on these, they aren’t keeping me awake at night or anything haha. You’ve got to take what you can from it and move forward!! Thank you for stopping by 🙂

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  13. gemmaorton October 23, 2017 / 1:40 pm

    Great post.
    Thanks for reminding me why I started doing this. I enjoy it. Sometimes you can get too hooked up on stats.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 6:15 pm

      Thank you, Gemma! I just remind myself- what are stats when there are conversations to be had?? Conversations can’t be measured, so stats go out the window anyways!! 🙂

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      • gemmaorton October 24, 2017 / 3:58 pm

        Exactly! Conversations and interaction is what I love most about blogging 😊

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  14. chasingsydney October 23, 2017 / 3:26 pm

    I have been blogging on and off for about ten years now, starting with teenage Sydney who wrote poems, posts about senioritis, and how awkward I was. I honestly have no regrets from my past blogs because they are hilariously nostalgic to look back on. As for my current blog, my biggest regret is not starting sooner. I looooove to travel and I love to write, though I gave up on it for the longest time because I didn’t think anyone would want to read about little old me. But that’s the silliest part, for every time I make a new post now, all that I care about is that I love it (and also that my grandma loves it, but she’s easy to please). It makes me smile when I look at my blog. I just wish I would have started sooner. Ah well, so it goes.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 23, 2017 / 6:18 pm

      I have some pretty hilarious posts from when I started blogging that still make me laugh, and who am I to deny any laughter in the world?? It’s got to be about fun and enjoyment, or otherwise what is the point? I still don’t know if people *want* to hear or read about me, buuuuuut it’s out there if they would like to 🙂 Some of my favourite blogs and posts are something that I never thought I would enjoy, so I think that all bloggers should take a chance on sharing something! (Also, my grandpa reads my blog and it’s the best 🙂 ) Plus, even though you’ve just started this blog, you’ve got a whole decade of blogging under your belt to draw on!! That’s way more than most of us have- you should be teaching all of us!

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  15. missb October 23, 2017 / 6:06 pm

    Good tips here. I’m fairly new to this and have not been regularly publishing posts yet, I do read and research a lot. How do you get to the blogging communities? I only saw one from blogging fundamentals course.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 27, 2017 / 9:09 pm

      Thank you!! All of the communities that I belong to are on Facebook group- I either found them by other bloggers mentioning them, people inviting me, or just searching “millenial lifestyle bloggers” (or whatever niche I was searching for)! There is a lot to sort through, and I found that a lot of the groups weren’t for me, but you can find some wonderful people in these communities!

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  16. When I thought I was Nothing October 23, 2017 / 6:09 pm

    I used to GO CRAZY with looking at my stats but now I forget too. Blogging should be about you and what you enjoy to write about. If the numbers follow that is pure bonus!

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 27, 2017 / 9:10 pm

      Exactly!! If I wanted a blog that was all about numbers, I could certainly make a few key changes and see an uptick in stats. However, then it wouldn’t be me, and then what’s the point??

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  17. Beatrice October 23, 2017 / 8:59 pm

    What you said is totally relateable. Numbers do get depressing (esp. followers, but I figured the # of followers isn’t even accurate since some followers stop blogging/checking posts), but we have to remind ourselves it’s a hobby, it’s supposed to be fun. Share quality content, content that reflects you, and be proud of it.

    I still have to keep telling myself of this, but reading your post reminded me to be proud of my blog and what I’ve shared. It’s a continuous learning process.

    Thanks so much for throwing the truth out there. 🙂

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 27, 2017 / 9:13 pm

      Oh, I’m quite certain that many of my followers are no longer active haha! It’s nice every once in a while to stop and think, “You know what, 50 people decided they want to read what I have to say and that’s pretty awesome” but letting that run your blogging life won’t get you anywhere.

      You have an absolutely fascinating blog, and I’m looking forward to reading me!! You should definitely be proud, it’s so interesting and striking and personal, and you put so much into it. Please keep posting, I’m going to be sharing your blog with my friends!

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      • Beatrice October 28, 2017 / 9:24 am

        Well said. At first numbers controlled me, but then the way I wrote and organized my photos and blog was enough to make me content.

        And I could say the same for you! I like the interesting topics you cover on your blog. I’ll make sure to check more of it out! 😀

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        • anhistorianabouttown November 11, 2017 / 7:09 pm

          Numbers are just that- numbers, and unless you are a computer, there isn’t a way for them to properly represent you. So I say, ignore the numbers!!! 😀

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  18. glendabjack October 23, 2017 / 10:48 pm

    I can relate to this. I travelled a lot before I started blogging g about travel. So right now I am reaching into my “archives” of photos in order to construct my stories. I do it for the love of it, I get nostalgic and I relive special moments as I write, it’s my back to the future journal 📓. It’s for me. My niche is saturated but it doesn’t. Deter me at all.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 27, 2017 / 9:14 pm

      Every genre will be saturated eventually, but when the point is to enjoy what you are doing, saturation is irrelevant. I love looking back through my archives and remembering things, it’s a great way to unwind and relax 🙂

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  19. Mademoiselle adielle October 24, 2017 / 11:39 am

    I really appreciate how you take time to respond to every comment. BTW i enjoyed reading this post, it was really honest and we ( by we i mean i 🙂 ) need such people.
    I also run two blogs and it is not that easy to take time for others when they won’t take time for you but i am still happy when i stumble on a great blog.
    I may as well have regrets but i can find them now :), maybe it is because i love writing and i will write even when no one is going to read though i highly appreciate comments and feedbacks.

    Thanks for your honesty, i am trying to always respond to any comment i receive or visit everyone that leaves a like on my site.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 27, 2017 / 9:06 pm

      Thank YOU for taking the time to read through this!! Sometimes it can be very unnerving to be honest and direct and potentially upset some people but to let it out and know that there are other people who feel the same way is a wonderful feeling. Those are the people that I blog for!!
      I try my hardest to respond to all comments!! Sometimes one will slip through the cracks, but I really go out of my way to try. If someone is going to that length to write a thoughtful comment, the least I can do is respond!

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  20. Sartenada October 26, 2017 / 5:08 am

    Of course, blogging is also hobby, but which kind of hobby? My hobbies are photographing, language translations, and then comes blogging – in four languages. I am sure that I never will be monetizing my blog. If I would do so, then I would loss many of my readers who want to know about my unknown country.

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    • anhistorianabouttown October 27, 2017 / 8:53 pm

      For me, it’s very much a writing hobby! Some bloggers do handle a monetised blog better than others, and although it’s not for me, I also don’t blame people for trying to earn some money for all of the time they put in! Thanks for stopping by!

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